Lenny Kravitz got it right with “Let Love Rule.”

Yet Haddaway adds an important question with “What is Love?” (To see Lenny Kravitz’s latest video click here.)

So, let love rule. Let love rule. Let love rule.

What is love?

I could fill at least one good novel with my adventures in the search for love. Possibly a trilogy, because my search for love spanned continents and languages. It took me high up toward the top of mountains and  deep into caves the earth. I looked into many sets of eyes in my search for love. I applied myself to many good deeds. I even conformed in my search for love. All temporary. All fleeting. Love is either here or it is not here.

So, a practical, applicable definition for love.

1. Love is an inside experience.
2. Love has its own recognizable vibration or feeling in your body when you actually are feeling Love.
3. Love is generative. It multiplies and creates more of itself.
4. Love is fearless. Courage is a heart full of Love.
5. Love and Truth are in harmony together.
6. Love may feel vulnerable at first, but in fact it is highly protective because it attracts more of its own.
7. The best way to receive love is to practice being it.

Now we know what is Love, why let it rule?

First, an experiment. Next time you are about to meet a new animal or small baby, before you enter the space: Stop and open your heart. Find the feeling of Love however you can get there and let the warm vibration expand from within you. You will be amazed at how sweetly most animals and small children will recognize your congruent intention. Even better, you will see that aspect of them amped up and will have the best possible experience with them.

I suppose it is true with all people, yet I find it most easy with animals and small children.

Imagine if Love ruled the world. Everyone just ‘woke up’ to the fact that Love is freely available and a conscious inside choice. AND any other choice just hurts the one who is feeling it — it offers no balance or retribution to perceived wrongdoers. SO love serves me because it attracts more love to me.

The Hindu Goddess Lakshmi (Shri) is goddess of wealth and abundance AND Love and devotion.  Hold THAT lens in front of your eyes and notice how it changes your view of the world.

The person who most needs your love in this world is you. When we are full we have lots to give and plenty of support. When we soften and accept ourselves we create a tiny permission for others around us to do the same. When you marvel at the beauty and perfection in your life you invite more in. Love is a moment to moment experience. You ARE you own love generator. Do you have permission to turn yourself on?

Media you consume impacts what you attract.

What do you want to attract? If you wrote a list of 100 things you love to have around you like gorgeous weather, friendly considerate people, interesting things to see and do, good news, exciting upcoming events, beauty, happy laughter, good smells, open views, free time, helpful people, supportive people, inspiring and engaging people… (Your list of course, tailored to you) I would then challenge you to find significant amounts of any of those 100 wonderful things on media news. However, the media stations serve us — at least in the sense that they give us what we will watch the most.

In the old model, reporting bad and shocking news made sense. You could call attention to those areas most in need. However, there is a flaw in the reasoning.

The Law of Attraction applies NOT to how good we think we are for thinking about those less fortunate (no matter what your mom said). The Law of attraction applies to how we are vibrating — the emotions that pulse and pattern through us moment to moment day to day. We create more of what we are already vibrating for ourselves first and for everyone else as an automatic byproduct. It is actually pretty cool, because it changes the basis of what is a good person.

We have had so much conflict and so much rebellion because of the old definition of being good. Think of the basic teenage complaint: they have to go against what they want for themselves to follow a larger structure or set of rules. In the old way of thinking you followed those external rules to keep you safe because older wiser people found them tried and true. So each of us in some way has been a tied up bundle of what-I-want-they-say-is-bad-but-what-I’m-supposed-to-do-is-miserable.

The Law of Attraction frees us from all that and makes being good much simpler. Good feels good. Good feels good because good feelings are actually contributing to the vibrational soup in an uplifting way. We best serve humanity by joyfully serving ourselves. It is one of God’s great ironies.

“We become what we think about”. Earl S. Nightingale

As you are watching news or other programs, and as you are reading the paper or even a book, begin to notice what vibrations are amplified inside your body as you watch or read. Notice: is this improving my vibrational soup? Is this bringing me more of what I want? If the answer is yes, stay with it. If the answer is not yes, well, how badly do you want it?

Satisfying my needs.

As an undergraduate at Yale I majored in psychology, and in my second year I was deeply struck by Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.

He noticed how, throughout history, humans have moved up a hierarchy of needs from survival needs like food, sleep and stimulation through five phases to self-actualization. He also noticed that while we live in a time and place where self-actualization is possible, different people conduct their lives at different levels of the hierarchy.

Self actualization is defined as the basic force that drives a person onward to serve a destiny or cause greater than him or herself. Examples of some more famous self-actualized people in history: Gandhi, Tomas Jefferson, Abraham Lincoln, Ben Franklin, Albert Einstein, Nikola Tesla, Nelson Mandela, and many, many more. Self actualized people, according to Maslow, display more highly refined qualities like: independence, playfulness, effortlessness, uniqueness, honesty, aliveness and trust.

Always an ambitious one (I was, after all, at Yale) I committed in that moment to ‘becoming self-actualized.’ Which I immediately tied in my mind to Joseph Campbell’s much loved edict Follow Your Bliss. My mission in life became to be the best ME possible.

Great idea, but what is the best me possible, and how do I get there?

Those two questions led me on a decade long journey which includes — thankfully — the wonderful Law of Attraction work of Jerry and Esther Hicks.

Many people who saw The Secret movie speak about the Law of Attraction as if it were a way to get stuff, or basically to satisfy Maslow’s first need in the hierarchy; body needs. The Law of Attraction has much, much more to say. The Law of Attraction, when you dive deeply enough, is saying: you don’t need stuff because you’re being taken care of anyway and as you relax and allow everything you want will come to you.

Recently in a evening teleconference, Bashar spoke about the human mind as the receiver and the perceiver but NOT the conceiver. The human mind is NOT AND NEVER WAS the author of your life. You’re just observing the magic of greater forces at work sometimes successfully imagining you have control.

The Law of Attraction only really makes sense when you connect it to the idea that there is more to you than you think. Specifically, you are mostly non-physical intelligent energy working in great concert with a vast and mentally unfathomable universe. You are a single operative in a vast army of Light, and you are strictly on a need-to-know basis. Most things, frankly, we just don’t need to know. The Law of Attraction teaches the Art of Surrender, or the development of softness, of Yin energy, of Prana (breath), of conscious connection with your greater self. The challenge is not how vividly you can imagine what you want so you can prove to yourself it works by then bringing that specific thing to you, no, the true challenge is to remain open enough and trusting enough so the vast magnificence of the universe can bring you the unimaginably wonderful.

stop torturing yourself and Get On with Living.

Trust is not a four letter word, but we act as if it were.

Is there anything more frightening (or delicious) than softly dissolving into liquid trust? Are you someone who effortlessly and easily relinquishes control? (If so you’re really really rare.) We keep secure boundaries around ourselves as if what is inside needs to be protected from what is outside. We police our thoughts and actions to avoid conflict, criticism or punishment from the outside.

Who is this outside anyway?

I am by no means the first to write or speak there is no outside. At least as far as your relationship with what you want is concerned. Yes, there is an outside experience, but it is SO HUGE and INFINITE with possibility, you really can glide through your own tiny sliver and only encounter more and more of what you enjoy.

Think about it this way. Wherever you are sitting or standing, notice the room you are in. Then, still aware of yourself in the room, sense the size of the city around you and all the bustling of people just in your city. Then, still aware of yourself in the room in the city, expand to the state or province you are in. At this same moment an entire state of people are be-ing. You can continue (staying centered in your own body in your own room, expand to include the country, the continent, and the world.

The simultaneous abundance of each moment is unimaginable to my mind. When I reach as far as I can go, I still barely approximate the richness, texture and variety of what is actually happening.

For me, this amazing variety inspires trust. It hints of our intrinsic value; each person a perfect puzzle piece of a earth-wide puzzle. Of course, what is perfect for me already IS. Of course what I am doing/saying/being is GOOD and OK. Of course I am surrounded by good people who are the right match for me. Of course my life keeps getting better over time. Of course things always work out for me. Of course I can have what I want.

It is easy to imagine that in the rich vastness of opportunity in the quantum field of potential we call the outside world, what is perfect for you is not only OUT THERE it is CALLING YOU TOO.

Unforgiveness and the Law of Attraction

Who in your life bugs you? How about that person who did you harm? What about the groups of people who are simply mean, stupid or wrong?

No matter who or what fills in the answer to those questions for you, your unforgiveness only hurts you.

Perhaps you’re familiar with the feeling of resentment. I certainly have been. Resentment feels like a burning — uncomfortable like stomach acid. How about anger. Do you have more energy or less after you get angry. I certainly have less. Of course, it is unhelpful to deny emotions like resentment or anger, and impossible to be sober in the world and never feel them. What is helpful and possible is to notice areas of unforgiveness and begin to soften them inside you.

It doesn’t matter how awful the other people are, who they murdered or the terrible wrong they are doing, your resentment and anger only ever hurts yourself. Even if you are a shining example of good deeds and a responsible and giving person, any areas inside you that burn with resentment or tremble with fear limit your ability to receive what you want according to the law of attraction.

It seems much easier to follow the old model of right action. If I do good according to the rules I will be rewarded. However, it is easy to look around the world and see that being good according to a set of rules rarely pays off, and when it does it is usually has come at too great a price. In fact, many people who seem to not be doing good at all reap all sorts of benefit all over the place. No, there is something much deeper at work here: The Law of Attraction.

Reasons to forgive:

1. Lightness.
2. Ease.
3. Things work better for me.
4. That person or situation loses the power it had over me — I get my power back.
5. Greater health and well being.
6. Unforgiving only hurts me and has no impact on the person I am unforgiving.

Many times we resist forgiveness out of fear of repeating the same mistake. Oh, that person took advantage of me, and if I forgive and let it go then I am a sitting duck for a repeat performance.

This is a logical argument, however totally incorrect. When we hold onto something unpleasant from the past we increase NOT decrease our chances of repeating the same story again. That to which is like itself is drawn.

Our greatest power to change the world around us is NOT outside through action, but inside through attitude, understanding and emotion. Give yourself a break, practice forgiveness wherever you can and see what happens.

The real secret to the law of attraction illustrated by Dorothy and the Wizard of Oz

The real secret to the law of attraction is circular.

Everything we want, we do, or we chastise ourselves for is based in a desire to be happy. Yet, when we get what we want or accomplish a goal the happiness tends to be fleeting before we settle back into our old ways of wanting the next and the next again. As you can see, circular (like a dog chasing its own tail.)

We all want to be happy, and to feel happy, and to look happy to others (aye, there is the rub.)

Rather than trying to get off the wheel by stopping desire (long term, an impossible task & such struggle!), the law of attraction says: You already have what you need to get what you want. Be happy here and now no matter what.

Like Dorothy, we already have the ruby slippers on our feet. If you remember in the Wizard of Oz, Dorothy lands on a wicked witch the moment she arrives in Oz, and immediately inherits her magical ruby slippers. Dorothy, entirely naive of her own power, goes on a long and dangerous journey to find outside help. After several misadventures she finally earns the assistance of the Great and Powerful Oz. However, Oz has no powers. He informs her that she has had the power to get what she wants all along. In that instant, she is home.

We have not yet discovered our own power. Particularly, our power to be happy here and now no matter what.

Instead of claiming our power in the form of alignment with our inner authority and trust in and love for ourselves, we have been acting as if the goal of life is to please an outside authority.

Joseph Campbell said it really well. In his filmed interview with Bill Moyer, Campbell talks about a subtle but all informing difference in the creation myths of the east and the west. He described both creation myths as almost identical. However, in the west God created man as separate from himself and in the east God poured himself into man. In the west there is separation from an external God while in the east God is also within.

Why is this important? Remember, Dorothy faced her death in an effort to win the favor of the Great and Powerful Oz, only to discover that she had the power the get what she wanted all along.

Most of the external authorities we have been trying to please are actually memories and voices in our own heads that in reality have no power (except that we lend it to them.)

What is the way out? Well, it is really more of a non-doing that a doing.

Have you ever played with the toy called “chinese finger torture.” You place one finger from each hand into either end of a long tube. Once they are in there you cannot get them out no matter how hard you try. In fact, the more you struggle the tighter it binds. At first it is funny, and then….

Well the way out of chinese finger torture is just like the way out of putting off your happiness — you relax and let go. To release your fingers from the toy, you have to soften your muscles and gently push your fingers towards each other — a move that feels like you’re digging deeper in. However, as you do the toy releases and then, again, it is funny.

If there is something in your life you’ve been feeling bound up by, or that you’ve been struggling with a lot — do the opposite of what you’ve been trying and begin to soften around it. Forgive yourself bit by bit for getting yourself here, and each tiny inch towards center is you that much closer to the bind fully and completely letting go.

Law of Attraction is more than Positive Thinking

There is more to the law of attraction than positive thinking. Let’s say you imagine your dream house. In your mind’s eye you walk through the rooms and notice the layout. You appreciate the light and the view and even imagine the paintings on the wall in great detail. However, the whole time part of you is appreciating what you are imagining and a nagging, internal part is doubtful. What are you creating? A mix of appreciation and doubt is what you are creating. Some of what you want can come through and some cannot.

It pays to be clear about ideas like positive thinking and optimism.

For our purposes here positive thinking can be defined by thoughts (images and sounds) that correspond to simultaneous good feelings. If you are in escrow on your dream home, and you are marvelling at the almost amazing sychronistic events that got you here, and you are congratulating yourself on a job well done and finding yourself elated at the idea of furnishing and decorating the new place because you know the money for it is all here, you are demonstrating an example of positive thinking. Positive thinking is either happening or not happening in any one moment.

Optimism is a little bit different. The basis of optimism is a knowing and a certainty that no matter how circumstances look, “things always work out for me.”  If you have proven for yourself over time that everything always works out for the best — and usually better than I expected, you are likely to find the silver lining quickly in any situation. Optimism is seen where there is a foundation of trust is self and the universe. Optimism is forward looking and determined to find the pearl. Optimism is a practiced attitude — even orientation.

To keep in shape you exercise almost every day. To keep your vibration or mind/body/emotional system in shape you practice positive thinking and optimism every day until the momentum of the natural joy and love within you take over and you open yourself up to really ride life.

What if none of us came here to conform, fit in or marginalize our dreams? What if we all came here for the unique experience of being something almost unplanned and fully undiscovered? What put-aside dreams are you ready to start enjoying now?

Byron Katie’s The Work is simple and powerful belief-changing material. To see her work with someone is amazing, yet the foundation of her work is four simple questions:

1. Do I really know that (what I do not like) is true?
2. Can I really know that (what I do not like) is true?
3. How do I react, what happens when I believe that thought?
4. Who or what would I be without the thought?

When you take even fifteen minutes to let those questions really resonate within you, until you feel the answers rise, you have in a short moment completely rewired an old mental pathway or program and are one step closer to freedom.

This above all: to thine own self be true
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.
William Shakespeare

Beyond visualization: the art of congruent intention

I remember hearing Bashar say “You are always 100% certain, even if you’re using 60% of that certainty to doubt.”

Have you ever seen a dog chasing its tail? It’s head is only inches away from the goal but never catches it, since every inch the head moves forward, the tail does too.

That is what we are like when we try to use visualizations or affirmations we don’t believe.

By all means use visualizations and affirmations since done correctly they are like healthy food for the body or good fertalizer for soil. But believe first and foremost that 1. you can have what you want and 2. you deserve to be or have it and 3. the outcome that is truly best for you is best for everyone.

How do you know when you are believing a visualization or an affirmation?

First, it feels really good or at least like relief.

Second, you aren’t looking for confirmation outside because you already feel it inside.

Finally, what you are asking for is congruent with all of you and not just a deprived, hopeless or victimized part of you.

How do you know when something is congruent with all of you?

First, it feels really good or at least like relief.

Second, your heart sings when you think about it (even if it’s only for a pure, clear moment before the old programmed guilt kicks in).

Finally, you find yourself compelled forward whether you think you want it or not.

Bashar calls it: “The path of least resistance.”

Abraham-Hicks urges us to: “Go with the flow.”

The great American mystic Joseph Campbell said: “Follow your bliss.”

My fortune cookie from the other night says: “Look for the dream that keeps coming back, it is your destiny.”

When I was working one on one with people using NLP for business and personal success, the common theme that most stood out to me was how each person had a dream somewhere inside them that they had convinced themselves they could not have. The funny thing as an observer from the outside was that each person’s dream was totally unique and completely perfect for them. It became almost hilarious to see people deny themselves from what is obviously perfect for them.

However, as with all truths of the mind we come to a subtle but important distinction. The bliss Joseph Campbell was urging us to follow is not a big-picture idea like “modeling” or “real estate,” but a moment-to moment cultivation of those things that please us naturally, effortlessly and anyway. By the path of lease resistance we find ourselves in who knows where, except that wonderful took us here and more is on its way.

What do I get for being a good person?



I had a boyfriend in my twenties who would say “good girl!” when he was pleased with me. At the time, my mind thought nothing of it, but in my emotions I would feel this involuntary thrill.

Our individual and collective desire to be good is seen in all hero movies, stories like Robin Hood, religious and spiritual settings where we try and please God, schools and even jobs as we try to please the teacher or boss. Some people think that being good is as simple as following the ten commandments, going weekly to church or temple or abstaining from animal foods and products. When you dig down into the 21st century human psyche, however, you find that being perceived by self and other as good is not only the primary driving force for most of our actions, but how we define “being good” is at best arbitrary and actually quite capricious. It is totally random and without real meaning. We are all running around trying to secure and achieve things to be good to a society, God, mate, parent or even projected desired self. It is an impossible dream the way we’ve been going about it.

So, the answer to the question: what do I get for being a good person?

Is nothing. There is no clear reward for trying to please the people around you, except that sometimes they are pleased. It is time to take a good look at good, and ask ourselves what it really means.

Some people think giving donation and providing service to those less fortunate is good — and by all mean it can be — but the Law of Attraction points out that how we do something is much more important that what we are doing.

Let me give you an example. A man arrives at a train station a bit late due to unexpected contruction traffic. He is flustered and rushed. He parks, gets into the station and runs straight for the platform only to see his train taking off faster than he can possibly catch it.

Now, on a side note this man has been looking for months for a similar job to the one he has much closer to home. He would like to avoid taking the train at all, and this far has not found the opening that would make his life easier.

Standing with his hands on his thighs, catching his breath after his run, he has serveral choices. He can get angry and blame city traffic and construction for missing his train. He can feel wrong and guilty that he did not leave earlier to definitely make his train. He could wonder if there is a way missing his train to day could be the best for him.

Our man in the story chooses the third. He knows his heart is tired of that job and of catching that train. Perhaps, without knowing it, I am needed elsewhere today he says to himself. Instead of rushing to get a ticket for the next train, this man calmly strolls out of the train station and plans to work from home today. I’ll call the office, he thinks.

Stepping outside, he notices for the first time it is a beautiful day. Walking confidently to his car, he runs into an old boss of his, who he worked with very well, who has just taken a position at a company very close to this man’s home. They’ve got one position they want me to fill. His old boss says. I’m really glad I ran into you today.

If you assume that everything always works out for you, and that the Universe is on your side and not against you, then at least you have a chance of noticing what the world actually has to offer.

Would this man have gotten the job offer even if he’d responded in an angry or guilty way? Possibly, hard to say. But wasn’t it more fun this way?

Abraham-Hicks says: Good feels good. When we’re lined up with the Universe our body and emotions prove it to us with good feelings and emotions.

Being good is about being in mental and emotional states that feel good. Love, appreciation, compassion, hope, RELIEF — all good. Being good is NOT about doing something that wins someone else’s approval.

This above all: to thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.
William Shakespeare (1564 – 1616 Hamlet”, Act 1 scene 3

Not much to say after that. There it is.

Why can’t I choose what I think about?


The Law of Attraction says "that which is like itself is drawn."

Earl Nightengale says: "You are what you think about all day long."

The Secret seems to say that you can have everything you want simply by thinking positively about it. While visioning is good. There is more to the law of attraction than your thoughts can conceive. An important basis of the Law of Attraction is that there is more than the conscious "you" involved in the creation process. Have you heard the expression, "when you step forward, the Universe meets you half way?" Big things in our life are great orchestrations like Mozart or Bethoveen concertos. Whether you call this greater part of yourself your "Higher Self" or the "unconscious mind" or even God, our next great leap as a nation and as a world is to sing in harmony with this greater self. To trust and earn trust. To expect MORE than we can imagine from our smaller, conscious mind. Expect MORE from the future than our past could possibly contain. To do this is a full body affair. Not just our thoughts in our mind, but also our body and emotions.

When you want to change your point of attraction about something in your life, apply the leverage of this greater communication. Whether to improve relationship, money or health the first most important thing to notice is that your thoughts are actually images, sounds and feelings all added up together.

In my upcoming DVD and workbook I give you a step by step guide to improve your point of attraction from the inside out. I call it Getting Familiar with the ABC's. Because the inner images, sounds and feelings that you are "playing" all the time ARE your point of attraction. Sometimes redirecting your attention is not possible and you need a more powerful tool to deconstruct what wasn't working, mine the gold and allow an upgraded, integrated version of that belief or intention to form.

We are fully capable, fully empowered beings. We can create amazing self-healing, overcome huge obstacles, and achieve greatness within a lifetime. No matter where you are now, you can get to where you want to go. The first step is to believe that you can have/be/do it.